odds and ends

i’ve bee thinking of going to a RESOLVE support group – there are a couple about an hour’s drive from here.  anyone have any experience with them (extra bonus points if you’ve been to one in NJ).  i’d love some opinions if you have any.


one thing that Dr. Y mentioned when were with her was that my files from Dr. Derman were missing a stimulation sheet.  so glad i requested my whole file, and then had to nag to get my embryologist’s report.  i called his office yesterday, and i am so frustrated.  the medical records coordinator got a bit defensive when i mentioned that i had already requested my complete file, so it might not be in there.  she calmed down a bit when i explained that i wasn’t blaming her, but that none the less, i needed the sheet.  she tells me that i need to use the online system to request the file using the same damn form i had already submitted.  she needs the new one though so she can know exactly what i’m looking for.  whatever.  i go online and try to create an account, but it looks like i did years ago when i started going to the gynecologist in the same clinic, only i don’t remember any of my log in information and the site is so messed up that i can’t reset the account.  greeeaat.  i put a call back in to the records lady and leave a very sweet, pleading voicemail for her.  hopefully i can get some answers on monday.

i’m just so tired of this shit.  i want to be done with Derman’s office.  if i don’t get any answers by tuesday, i’m going to email him directly again.  i hate to go over her head and be a pain in the ass, but wtf.  i need the damn information so i can move on.  i hope i can get it in time for this next cycle.


speaking of which, i’m on CD 49, and started taking provera two days ago.  i have to go back in for bloodwork and an ultrasound on CD3, and should start BCPs soon after.  it’s a strange mix of excitement and fear going on right now.  i am trying to be optimistic that things will be different this time, but hope can be a scary thing.


(the rest of this post was edited out when i made my blog public.  you can read the original, full post here.  feel free to  email me if you want access to it and don’t know me in real life)


5 thoughts on “odds and ends

  1. I’m considering joining a group too, in MA. Keep us posted!

    WTG on your pod person/mom being sensitive! Amazing! I recently had a showdown with my folks because they never call me. Now I am dealing with constant phone calls from my father, who is a loud talker and rarely listens. LOL one extreme or another, right? 🙂

  2. It sounds like you have a lot going on right now! If you do join a RESOLVE group, I’d love to hear what you think. The IF blog world can be incredibly supportive, but I wonder if meeting people in real life would provide support in different ways.

    So happy to hear things are going well with your mom. We haven’t told either sets of parents because I’m so scared that every conversation will turn into one about fertility. It’s not a final decision (not to tell), but that’s where we are now.

    I hope all the issues with transferring your records are sorted soon!

  3. Happy ICLW!

    I belonged to a RESOLVE group in Clifton, NJ, but it has since dissipated. The experience was really great on one end and not-so-great on the other. The facilitator had her own views on IF that made it a little difficult for participants to feel comfortable venting. Other than that, the camaraderie of the group members was fantastic!

    Coincidentally, I’m a therapist starting an infertility support group for women in Montclair next month. Not sure where you are in NJ, but I’d be happy to chat with you about it, if interested. 😀

  4. Wow – your doctor’s office sounds like mine. I always felt bad about asking a second time for something – but you really need to be your own advocate because no one else will.

    I also hear ya with your mom. My mom continues to tell me to relax. I just don’t bring it up to her. Now that we are on an adoption path, I try to limit my details with her.

    I have no experience with RESOLVE – but I do believe that support is important.

  5. I had a friend who had experience with RESOLVE in NJ, I’ll see if I can get info from her. And I’m going to read some more about setting boundaries. I could use a refresher on that concept.

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