happy four years

some snippets from our wedding ceremony, august 9, 2008:

J and R, your marriage will, no doubt, be filled with surprises.  Some you will welcome, while others will test the strength and flexibility of your bond.

Your life together will present many opportunities to refine and deepen your love and to explore the profound depths of your being.  May you be compassionate with each other and nurture yourselves, each other, and this union with tender loving care.

May your love create a safe haven for you both on the journey that lays ahead of you.  Lend with your hearts and take the time to do the simple things that will nurture your love.

Deeply listen to each other – to your dreams and your frustrations.  Be helpmates.  Be playful in finding ways to give your love anew to each other every day.

 

You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”

on our wedding day, when we vowed to be there in sickness and in health, and to stand by each other when things got tough, i never imagined that would include infertility.  and i don’t think i need to tell anyone that it hasn’t always been easy.  but i can honestly say that we would never have gotten this far if R wasn’t such an amazing man.  he never really wanted kids when we first met, and gradually came around to the idea by the time we got married. but no matter how hard things had gotten, how depressed i became, how much this would hurt, he hasn’t wavered once.  not even when i questioned if it was all worth it.  he knew how important having children was to me, and he wouldn’t let me give up on that dream.

thank you and i love you don’t quite seem adequate when you really think about it.  but thank you.  and i love you so, so much.

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all photography copyright jason reese of photoresxit photography

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